Virtual teams are hard on relationships and they’re particularly challenging for productive conflict. But avoiding conflict on a remote team is just as harmful to both your business and your relationship as it is on a normal team. These tips will help you work through conflict with a remote colleague so you can get back to business.
Don’t get in the middle of feedback between your team. If someone comes to you, encourage them to share the feedback directly. Doing otherwise encourages passive-aggressiveness and reduces the value of feedback. Here are the steps to build that muscle in your team members.
So, you’re busy trying to get on with the next in line of never-ending changes in your organization but you’ve got THAT person on your team: The person who moans and complains at every request and drones on about how horrible everything is. First of all, I’m sorry you have to deal with that. Second, […]
This just in: new research on the effects of being honest and what it means for you. I’m constantly encouraging people to engage in the productive conflict that will move their team (and their organization) forward. The biggest stumbling block is people’s fear that being honest about what they think and feel will erode trust […]
“Do you agree that we should pick our battles?” This was a question I got during the Q&A session of a keynote speech I gave last week. I think I surprised the questioner with my response, which means I might surprise you too, so here goes. If you are “picking battles,” you’re getting conflict all […]
First off, apologies for posting so infrequently for the past while. I’ve been on the road for most of the past two months and I’ve devoted all available writing time to my new manuscript. The great news is that I just submitted Chapter 9 and that means only one more chapter to go! I am […]
I’ve been flying across the country delivering a leadership development program about the mindset and skillset leaders require to unlock the potential of their people. As I watch them role play with one another, I notice the things they say that create a negative reaction. Most of the offending statements include one of these three […]
I’m deep into writing my new book and I’ve had an epiphany: Organizations are built to require conflict while employees are built to avoid it. I see this impact of this problem every day, but it took me 20 years to name it. Now it’s so clear. We have set up a fundamental tension between […]
I keep encouraging you to wade into uncomfortable conversations as they emerge to avoid racking up conflict debt. Rather than deferring the topic, or talking only with those who agree with you, it’s best to get the disagreement out in the open. When you do, the point is to find a way to get on […]
You know that your team is conflict avoidant. You know it’s preventing you from surfacing issues, thoroughly discussing them, and getting them resolved effectively. You really want to make it better, but how do you start? The people on your team (and maybe even your boss) are seriously unwilling to broach any subject that might […]