After encouraging a group of leaders to address the emotions on their team, I was asked this week if managers are now expected to be therapists for their employees. Here’s my answer, and a step-by-step guide to managing through an emotional outburst.
“I’m very protective of my people.” That’s a line I heard last week from an executive addressing the question of whether it’s ok for members of the executive team to give feedback to one another’s direct reports. What do you think? Is it necessary to “protect” your people? What would be the necessary ground rules for you to be willing to let your peers give feedback directly to your team? Hmmm… fun questions!
I love language. I have always adored selecting the perfect word to convey exactly what I mean. At least until I realized that those gorgeous, expressive, sumptuous adjectives that I love are little rascals. How could your management benefit from ditching the adjectives?
A sincere and direct apology can do a world of good. Unfortunately, a misplaced apology can send mixed messages and impact your leadership. Do you agree with me that apologies are out of place in these three situations?
There is a good way to apologize and there are many, many bad ways. This week, I provide the formula for a good apology, one that increases trust and confidence. And for fun, I share a laundry list of bad apologies, some of which you might have heard from your own colleagues over the years.
I had an epiphany last week about the source of so much frustration and resentment on teams. I’ve labeled the problem, “unseen work.” In this post, I describe what unseen work is and provide a quick exercise you can do to identify and address any problems with unseen work before they trigger resentment on your team.
You’re smart. You have good ideas. You share them liberally. You create defensiveness. You get frustrated. Neil Gaiman offers terrific advice on why, when reviewing someone else’s work, you should identify problems but not propose solutions.
Do you have someone on your team who responds to every question about the future with a statement about the past? Are they holding your strategic conversations back? Here are some tips to manage your team historian.
When I look at all the advice I’ve given about productive conflict, I realize that some of it applies perfectly to conversations about racism and some of it doesn’t. I’m revisiting my rules and revising them for how to fight the good fight when it comes to conversations about systemic racism.
What’s different about managing during a pandemic? It’s how much time and energy leaders need to invest in addressing the fear and emotions of their people. Here are a few reminders about how to keep emotions from hijacking your team.