14

May

Managing the Aggressor on Your Team

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3coze

aggression, Bully, bullying, conflict

Be a better team leader, Be a better team member, Communicate, conflict, How to fix teams, Right Words to Say

We blow it when it comes to managing the dominant personalities on our teams. Here’s why. It’s very common for me to work with teams where one strong personality dominates the team and detracts from a positive dynamic.  Often that’s why I’m there–the team hasn’t been able to deal with the person themselves. Now, it […]

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26

Mar

4 alternatives to throwing your teammate under the bus

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3coze

aggression, feedback, gossip, tattle tell, under the bus, victim

Be a better team member, conflict, Horror Stories, Right Words to Say

Imagine this scenario. You gave a presentation at your team meeting today.  It was a progress report on your big project.  Around the table, heads nodded.  Then this afternoon, as you walked down the hallway, you overheard a conversation between two teammates.  One was complaining loudly about what a “crock” your presentation was and how […]

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05

Mar

Standing up to powerful bullies

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3coze

aggression, Bully, bullying, coping, leader, power

About teams, Bad Leaders, Be a better team member, conflict, Right Words to Say

I gave a speech last week to a group of leaders from the legal industry. The audience was filled with the people who support the lawyers: people from HR, marketing, finance, etc. I was talking about the importance of productive conflict when an audience member asked the question that everyone had been thinking about. “How […]

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05

Oct

The Case for More Conflict

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3coze

aggression, avoidance, book, conflict, conflict averse, conflict aversion, hostility, passive-aggressive, workplace conflict

About teams, Be a better team leader, Be a better team member, conflict, How to fix teams

I’m toying around with writing another book; a thought that creates simultaneous excitement and terror. Given that it’s been three years since You First came out, I thought I better ramp up slowly. I’m going to write a few posts that capture some of the ideas I might include in the book. Then I need […]

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23

Nov

How to work for an abusive leader

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liane

abusive, aggression, anger, bad boss, bad manager, complaints, horrible bosses, Human Resources, leadership

Bad Leaders, Horror Stories, Personal Development

  A while ago, my colleague Vince Molinaro wrote a great rant about the 10 worst types of leaders.  You can read the full post here.  When I came across it again, I had the inspiration to write a monthly series on how you and your team can survive under a terrible leader. This is […]

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02

Nov

How to reduce stress

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liane

aggression, anger, depression, exhaustion, frustration, isolation, lonliness, resilience, stress, stress management, stress relief, Tension

Be a better team member, Personal Development

  Sweaty palms, racing heart, sinking posture; that’s where I left you at the end of my previous post: you were deep in the abyss of your stress reaction; battling your stress demons. If you missed it, go back before you read this.  There’s no hope of slaying your stress demons if you don’t know […]

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