Virtual teams are hard on relationships and they’re particularly challenging for productive conflict. But avoiding conflict on a remote team is just as harmful to both your business and your relationship as it is on a normal team. These tips will help you work through conflict with a remote colleague so you can get back to business.
“Do you agree that we should pick our battles?” This was a question I got during the Q&A session of a keynote speech I gave last week. I think I surprised the questioner with my response, which means I might surprise you too, so here goes. If you are “picking battles,” you’re getting conflict all […]
I keep encouraging you to wade into uncomfortable conversations as they emerge to avoid racking up conflict debt. Rather than deferring the topic, or talking only with those who agree with you, it’s best to get the disagreement out in the open. When you do, the point is to find a way to get on […]
I’m in the midst of a series of posts exploring our profound conflict aversion and its toll on businesses, teams, and individuals. In previous posts, I shared a couple of the things we’re taught as children that give rise to our conflict aversion: “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all,” and […]
I spent some time with a team last week that was really suffering because of several months of unhealthy conflict. Relations had deteriorated to the point that team members were feeling disrespected by one another. There was a lot of anger in the room and they needed help from someone outside the team to get […]
“95% of the time, two smart people with the same goals and the same facts will come up with the same plan. So I tell my team to spend their time figuring out if they have the same goals and the same facts before arguing about what to do.” That’s a gem that came from […]