14

May

Managing the Aggressor on Your Team

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3coze

aggression, Bully, bullying, conflict

Be a better team leader, Be a better team member, Communicate, conflict, How to fix teams, Right Words to Say

We blow it when it comes to managing the dominant personalities on our teams. Here’s why. It’s very common for me to work with teams where one strong personality dominates the team and detracts from a positive dynamic.  Often that’s why I’m there–the team hasn’t been able to deal with the person themselves. Now, it […]

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05

Mar

Standing up to powerful bullies

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3coze

aggression, Bully, bullying, coping, leader, power

About teams, Bad Leaders, Be a better team member, conflict, Right Words to Say

I gave a speech last week to a group of leaders from the legal industry. The audience was filled with the people who support the lawyers: people from HR, marketing, finance, etc. I was talking about the importance of productive conflict when an audience member asked the question that everyone had been thinking about. “How […]

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12

Oct

Your conflict defaults

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3coze

Aggressive, avoidance, Bully, compromise, conflict, harmony, passive-aggressive, styles, victim

conflict, Horror Stories, Personal Development

“If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” Words many of us heard from the time we were very young. If your family lived by this rule, you might still struggle to share constructive feedback or to raise uncomfortable issues. If, on the other hand, the rule was more like, “If you […]

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29

Jul

Struggling to fit in on a new team

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liane

Bully, excluded, Exclusion, joining, new team, ostracized, outsider, welcome

Be a better team member, conflict, Horror Stories, Right Words to Say

  I received a great question from the ChangeYourTeam community recently: How long should it take after joining a team for a new member to be treated fairly? Of course the obvious answer is “no time!” I would hope that a new team member would be treated fairly right from the start. But I’m not […]

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14

Jun

Should I get involved?

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liane

Bully, bullying, bystander, communication, conflict, dysfunction, Fighting, interpersonal conflict, intervene

Be a better team member, conflict, Horror Stories, How to fix teams, Right Words to Say

  During the question and answer section of a speech I gave last week, someone posed a question that I think is top of mind for many people: if two of my teammates are fighting, should I get involved?  How would you answer? Do you subscribe to the “none of my business” approach and butt […]

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11

Dec

Extrovert vs. Egomaniac: Are you too much for your team?

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liane

Bully, dominant, extrovert, introvert, loud, over-powering, self-awareness

Be a better team member, Personal Development

Today’s blog is dedicated to an issue raised by a Knightsbridge client: How do I stop overpowering my team? It’s a great question in this era of new found respect for introverts.  How do we big, brash extroverts put a lid on it so the conversation can be more balanced and more productive? Here are […]

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28

Apr

4 Quick Tips for Those Who Have Been Told to Tone the Conflict Down

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liane

Aggressive, Bully, conflict, disagreement, Fighting, Infighting, Innovation, team building, team effectiveness

Be a better team member

This is the second of a two part blog on getting conflict right.  This one is for you if you’ve been accused of being aggressive or a bully.  If you wouldn’t hurt a fly, read the first in the series on how to overcome your conflict avoidant tendencies–it’s here. Most people struggle to find that […]

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