17

Feb

What teams can learn from Valentine’s Day

jeff

alignment, communication, disappointment, expectations, mistrust, teamwork, Valentine's Day

About teams, Be a better team leader, Be a better team member, Communicate, How to fix teams

People are often disappointed on Valentine’s Day because they have grand visions of what would make them feel loved but the fail to share them. The same thing happens on teams: we know what we want, but we don’t communicate it and, instead, set colleagues up to disappoint us. Here’s an alternative to falling victim to the Valentine’s Day Effect.

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29

Oct

The Change Your Team Blog

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3coze

conflict, management, mistrust, new leader, passive-aggressive, take over a team, underground

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I received a note from a member of the ChangeYourTeam community last week. In it, the person shared her difficult position. Here’s an abridged version. “I am a young leader with a team of people who not only have been in their positions longer than I have been a leader, but who have been in […]

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28

Oct

Managing underground conflict

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liane

conflict, management, mistrust, new leader, passive-aggressive, take over a team, underground

Be a better team leader, Be a better team member, conflict, How to fix teams, Right Words to Say

I received a note from a member of the ChangeYourTeam community last week. In it, the person shared her difficult position. Here’s an abridged version. “I am a young leader with a team of people who not only have been in their positions longer than I have been a leader, but who have been in […]

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06

May

Doing an end run

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liane

decision making, Exclusion, incompetence, influence, mistrust, Team Dysfunction, trust

Be a better team member, conflict, Horror Stories, Personal Development, Right Words to Say

  Recently, I heard a story of someone doing an end run around their teammate to get the boss onside. An end run is when you choose to go around the person who legitimately should be responsible for something to a person who will give you the answer you want. For example, your teammate is […]

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11

Jan

Dos and Don’ts When an Employee Doesn’t Like You

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liane

animosity, Bad relationship, direct report, dislike, employee, manager, mistrust, supervisor

Be a better team leader, Communicate, conflict, Right Words to Say

“How do you manage an employee who doesn’t like you?” That’s the great question I received recently from ChangeYourTeam member Julie. I’ll share my answer in the form of some dos and don’ts, but I’d love for you to pitch in with your two cents in the comments. Do Assess whether the negative feelings are […]

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28

Sep

Everybody Hurts

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liane

bad feelings, communication, conflict, dispute, hurt, interpersonal conflict, miscommunication, mistrust, tensions

Be a better team member, Communicate, Horror Stories, How to fix teams, Right Words to Say

Do you have moments when you feel that one of your teammates doesn’t appreciate you? Do you feel disrespected, undervalued, or misunderstood? Have you thrown up your hands, rolled your eyes, or lost your cool at the thought that you are being wronged? I bet they feel just as horribly as you do. “Oh no, […]

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06

Nov

What do I do if my teammate doesn’t trust me?

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liane

integrity, mistrust, reliability, trust, untrustworthy teammate

Be a better team member, How to fix teams

I really struggle when people ask me what to do if their teammates don’t trust them. Why? Because the word trust is one of the bigger, messier, and less helpful words we use in teams.  But, teamwork is messy, so I can’t let that stop me.  Here’s how I respond when someone is trying to […]

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